Proposed title and abstract as of Nov. 2019, subject to change. title: Hard Combinatorial Problems, Doubly Nonnegative Relaxations, Facial Reduction, and Alternating Direction Method of Multipliers Abstract: Semi-definite programming, SDP, relaxations have proven to be extremely successful both in theory and practice for many hard combinatorial problems. This is particularly true for the Max-Cut problem, MC, where a polynomial-time approximation algorithm with ratio $\alpha \approx 0.878$ is given by a method of Goemans and Williamson using SDP. Moreover, algorithms based on SDP and other tools have been very effective and problems with dimension in the thousands have been solved to optimality. In contrast, the quadratic assignment problem, QAP, is an NP-hard problem where dimensions bigger than $30$ are still considered hard. This is similarly true for many graph partitioning, GP, problems. SDP and in particular, the doubly nonnegative, DNN, relaxation have been successful in providing strong bounds. We look at semidefinite relaxations for these hard problems and some features that they have in common. We present a successful approach for all of them. The problems we look at are the: second lifting for MC, and the DNN relaxations for both the QAP and the GP. We show that the Slater constraint qualification, strict feasibility, fails for all these problems. Rather than resulting in theoretical and numerical difficulties we show how to use facial reduction, FR, to regularize while reducing the dimension of the problem. Finally, the large size of the relaxations makes it difficult to use in interior-point type methods. We see that FR fits perfectly with an alternating directions method of multipliers, ADMM. We show empirically that solving these relaxations generically solves the original hard combinatorial problems.